The Importance of Mashed Potatoes

"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing the monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." - C.S. Lewis

    While sitting in IHOP eating my cinn-a-stack pancakes, I had an odd thought come to me: Neither of my ex boyfriends liked mashed potatoes. Now, let me remind you, I live in the south. Mashed potatoes are a staple food, everyone likes mashed potatoes. There are days where I just eat mashed potatoes. I think this is a sign from Heaven.

    Needless to say, this has to do with more than just mashed potatoes. It has to do with commonality. You know what my exes and I had in common? Very very little. That should've been a red flag on it's own.

    No matter how hard you try, it is almost next to impossible to have a good healthy relationship with someone that you don't have much in common with. I mean, what are you suppose to do for fun? He REALLY enjoyed going out to parties. I REALLLYYYY hate parties. I love cooking comfort foods, he had an unhealthy relationship with the gym (as in spent more time there than with me, red flag #2). I absolutely love curling up and reading a good book and watching the same movies over and over, and well, you get the point. Complete opposites.

    Do opposites attract? In my case, yes, they do. It just doesn't end well. And that will most definitely be something I keep in mind as I continue to, hopefully, find the right guy.  I mean, I don't want to date an exact copy of me in a male body, I can't deal with myself on a daily basis and definitely don't need two. But I'll probably look for someone who has a similar taste in music, books, politics (yes I said it, it's pretty important when it comes down to it), and probably money.

    I like to think about my parents when it comes to having things in common in a relationship. My mother goes to church every week, extreme introvert, cooks, not OCD in the least, country or Christian music. My father does anything to avoid church, loves going out with his friends, has some OCD, classic rock music. But you know what, they have the same political views, same friends (for the most part), and enjoy doing the same activities for fun. So, just because your personalities aren't the same, it doesn't mean that you have nothing in common. Sometimes, it's the little things that really matter.